My intuition is telling me to leave the negotiation theme where it is for a while. I am feeling the need to move on to the topic of resistance. I did however think it would be worth just summarising where I have got to over the last few days with a few key pointers – especially since just writing this blog has moved my thinking on too.
Number 1 – the most important. Make sure that when you are making a decision in your life that you have brought you true self to the game and that you are not running on ego.
Number 2 - Being in two minds is a good thing as a starting point. It shows you have brought your true self to
the negotiation.
Number 3 – With your true self and your ego in play you can use negotiation techniques to help resolve the tension between the two and do so in a way that tips the balance in favour of your true self.
Number 4 – Negotiation results stick best when both parties have a win, in other words you are looking for a win win situation. You can use Negotiation Aikido techniques to get your otherwise blocking ego to start helping the dreams of your true self become true.
Number 5 – Your happiness is much more concerned with overall concepts than specific details. You know when it feels right and ignore the details. Abstraction is your friend. Use questions beginning with what, for example ‘what am I trying to achieve?’, to take out the details and you will reach a much clearer decision point. Avoid using why.
Number 6 – To conduct a successful negotiation between your ego and your true self depends on being able to hold both points of view in your head at the same time. You can help achieve this by imaging the two points of view as two figurines, one in each hand and conducting the negotiation as an observing facilitator. Do this and you will know where your heart lies.
That’s it. I’m off to dream up a whole new stream if wisdom. Until tomorrow.
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